If you are a parent who is a victim of the parental alienation, it may have struck without warning and you are wracking your brain trying to figure out what happened. Many alienated parents find it difficult to control their anger and hurt over being treated so poorly by their child and ex-spouse.
Experts on alienation suggest the following as ways to cope with the problem:
Try to control your anger and stay calm and in control of your own behavior.
Keep a log of events as they happen, describing in detail what happened and when.
Always call or pick up your child at scheduled times, even when you know the child won't be available. This is likely to be painful, but you must be able to document to the court that you tried to see your child and were refused.
During time spent with your child, focus on positive activities, and reminisce with the child about previous good times you had together.
Never discuss the court case with your child.
Try not to argue with or be defensive with your child. Focus on talking openly about what your child is actually seeing and feeling, as opposed to what the child has been told to be the truth.
Work on improving your parenting skills by taking parenting courses, reading parenting books, etc., so that you can be the best possible parent to your child. (Continued)
What should you do if you fear the other parent is trying to alienate your child? (Part 1)
