Children perceive one parent as causing financial problems of the other parent
Children appear to have knowledge of details relating to the legal aspects of the divorce or separation
Children show sudden negative change in their attitude toward a parent/guardian
Children appear uneasy around target parent - they resort to "one word" answers and fail to engage openly in conversations as they previously have done
Children are uncharacteristically rude and/or belligerent to target parent
Access time is not occurring as agreed upon or court ordered - visitation is being unilaterally cut back by the other parent
Hostile Aggressive Parent (HAP) parent undermines the other parent or speaks disparagingly about other parent in the presence of the children
HAP parent starts making reference to other parent as being abusive and a risk to the children with no apparent good reason
Allowing children to choose whether or not to visit a parent, even though the court has not empowered the parent or children to make that choice;
Telling the children about why the marriage failed and giving them the details about the divorce or separation settlement;
Refusing the other parent access to medical and school records or schedules of extracurricular activities;
Blaming the other parent for not having enough money, changes in lifestyle, or other problems in the children's presence;
Rigid enforcement of the visitation schedule for no good reason other than getting back at the other parent;
False allegations of sexual abuse, drug and alcohol use or other illegal activities by the other parent;
Asks the children to choose one parent over the other;
Reminding the children that the children have good reason to feel angry toward their other parent;
Setting up temptations that interfere with visitation;
Giving the children the impression that having a good time on a visit will hurt the parent;
Asking the children about the other parent's personal life;
'Rescuing' the children from the other parent when there is no danger.
Simply put, the parents engaging in such behavior are un-fit, abusive parents, putting their own emotional needs before those of their children. How it happens
