Alienated Children
Are you alienating your child?
Here’s an excerpt from The Angry Daughter Blog.
One more thing when I was pregnant will my first son I was 16 years old & I was very sick.
I had called you to see if you would take me up to the hospital. You said no. You claim to have been a good mother but wouldn’t take your daughter up the hospital. I was in tears & couldn’t breath. Well I got to the hospital with out your help & had to be admitted & hooked up to breathing machines & every thing. So just another example of how lousy of a mother you were.I remember you not wanting to drive to work because of the snow. It was me that drove you around. I didn’t make any excuses I did it because you had asked me to.
She writes about how alienation from her Dad has effected her life today. She is bitter and depressed and has shifted all ill her feelings toward the alienator. Its a good look into Parental Alienation from the kids point of view. Its sad.
My son is not allowed to love me. No one understands the pain I’m suffering. It’s like he is dead. I have absolutely no relationship with my only child. He’s been stolen from me and no one seems to care. The legal system is profiting from my misfortune!!Please stop this ugly crime against children. Children need to feel free to love both parents!!
I am just learning about PAS. It is blatant that this is what is happening to my kids ages 13&15. My heart is breaking! I have not had contact with them for 7 months, they do not respond to my many attempts at communication. I miss them beyond words and worry about the damaging,long lasting effects of this syndrome. I have been unable to find an agency that can assist me in this matter. Help!!!
It is as though you have walked through the wrong door and entered another life. “Yesterday”, I was lying in bed with each of my children talking before they went to sleep. The little routines of the nights are gone. Their voices, their footsteps, their laughter all of a distant whisper. The hate they have for me scorches my heart like flames of a fire, like being burned alive - not able to breath! Excrutiating pain throughout. My chldren are 13 and 15. My husband has been a verbally and emotional abusive man. January of 2010 my daughter begged me to leave that it was too much for her to bare…why her…why is he like this. March of that year we left. Over the course of the year I did not move on a divorce we were seperated and he was working on rebuilding his relationship with the children. He was also trying to with me. I was so very confused and just wanted it to be easier for everyone. I would allow him over at anytime to see the children, have dinner, have tv nights and sometimes sleep overs. My daughter and I were having a strained relationship - believing that she was confused and she was angry with me. December of 2010, my husband yelled at me because I didnt come home one time from picking up my son. Soon after, my son said “mom I am sorry I got you into trouble” at that moment I knew, Icould not be with him ever again. It wasnt until February of this year that I filed for divorce. My husband suggested we tell the children together. Over the past several month’s I had been ill and the children spent more and more time with their dad. The children were over his house earlier that day prior to us gathering. As I sat down to discuss what would be happening next and that ths would be official. Everything turned….Everything! I felt as though I was at a witch trial… no matter what..you are guilty. They all informed me that everything was my fault, accused me of not taking care of them, calling me names - all the while, my husband just sat there- did not say a thing. That was he begining of what I realized was my nightmare. I also realize that he had been planning this for quite some time. If he and I did not get back together….this was his plan B - to destroy me! On my Birthday they moved in with their dad… on Mothers Day they finished!
I have recently learned that my husband has been having an extramarital affair. The hardest part of this affair. Is the fact that MY children have daily contact with her and have been for several months at least…even when they were living with me they were having contact with her. I’m not sure I will every know or understand the rationale behind introducing this person to our children at such a vulnerable state. The only explanation that I can comprehend is this was one of his many tactics to alienate my children from me.
My heart doesn’t understand….how can they not want their mother? The one who was always there and took care of them. Sometimes, if I do get to see them for a brief time, I may just be luckly to see a glimpse of their affection or need for me. They say I am in the beginning of this awful journey - reality is that I may not see my children for years. The reality is that this is forever impacting their souls, their being, who they are and who they will become. My job wasn’t done. I have so many experiences to share with them. I have been their teacher, confident, moral compass - I have now become a mere bothersome speck in their lives in just a few short months!
I pray for all of us who are experiencing this awful act of hate. Mostly, I pray for the dear sweet children and somewhere, somehow God will put a protection around their hearts and souls from this evil and our children will come home.