Parental Alienation Awareness Day April 25th

Help raise awareness of this terrible Child Abuse

Parental alienation consists of one or more of a group of behaviors that are damaging to children’s mental and emotional well-being, and often involves interference with the relationship between children and either or both of their parents. These behaviors can most often accompany separations and divorces, and divorce-like situations, such as children born out of wedlock, but also can be evidenced within high conflict marriages.

With awareness of the problem comes education, and with education, comes the power to stop most of the abuse of young, impressionable, easily manipulated children, and to help repair many of the damaged family relationships. Our primary role is to spread that needed awareness, and we would like your help to get it done.

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We are looking for volunteers to ask their own Governor to either proclaim or officially recognize each April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day”
To learn how please visit
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Falling into the severe category of Parental Alienation Syndrome
By Jayne A. Major, Ph.D

Falling into the severe category of parental alienation are those parents who become obsessed with destroying the child’s relationship with the other parent and that parent’s family and friends. Dr. Frank Williams describes this goal of cutting a parent out of a child’s life as a “parentectomy.” In these cases, a child will succumb to the alienator’s programming or brainwashing and experience fear, anger, and hatred toward the target parent. When parental alienation is severe enough, children have no choice but to align with the disturbed parent against the target parent, thus destroying their relationship with the target parent. These children no longer have free will or the ability to continue loving the target parent. PAS describes the child’s behavior in response to the brainwashing that has occurred; it does not describe actions on the part of a parent. The focus of this article in on children who are being severely alienated or who are already experiencing PAS…

It is unfortunate that too many people will believe a dramatic story more than they will listen to evidence. Drama is the hallmark of people who are psychologically disturbed. Individuals with these severe mental health issues are under-diagnosed. We need more research and clarity on the effects of PA/PAS. The costs are staggering to children, the target parent, and that person’s family. The damage is severe and has long-reaching effects.

The whole fabric of our society is undermined by the behaviors of these severely disturbed individuals. Both men and women with obsessed thinking create PA/PAS situations with children and their target parent. Their irresponsible behaviors siphon off a staggering amount of social resources to stabilize the chaos they create. Any protocol that we use for the regular population is woefully inadequate in making them normal. Every year, hundreds of thousands of children and parents are experiencing the phenomenon of PA/PAS and the resulting devastation it causes. Millions of people are ending up damaged because, up to now, we have not even recognized the phenomenon or truly considered its impact. We all need to take action to educate and help people who have this terrible problem that does such severe damage to children.

By Jayne A. Major, Ph.D

Parental Alienation: A Law Guardian’s Perspective

By - Tracey A. Bloodsaw Esq. P.C.

The aim of today’s discussion is not necessarily to focus on the meaning of parental alienation, since there is a plethora of resources available for that purpose. Instead, I want to explore the significant roles, within the court process, that each of the players play in child custody cases where parental alienation is a factor. It is safe to assume that there is at least a minimum understanding of what parental alienation is-the brainwashing, manipulation, control of the child by one parent to stir up feelings of hate, anger, disdain, disrespect, disregard of the other parent, to name a few. According to the DOJ, it is domestic violence, while to many others it is a form of child abuse/neglect. Whichever way one chooses to characterize it, define it, diagnose it or treat it, it is indisputably one of the most egregious and catastrophic issues currently plaguing our society as a whole, worthy of open and daily discussion amongst us all.

Family Court cases are an enigma in that it is involves the only field of law where personal prejudices, cultural influences, religious mores and economic resources all converge, having a direct and profound impact on the outcomes of each case. Even as an attorney, I am continuously reminded of the fact that there is no hard and steadfast rule in how one should rear or nurture their family. However, there is a resounding principle in Family Court, as in any other arena, that children are our most precious jewel and should not be sacrificed for any reason. Nevertheless, it is the individual interpretation of this principle that leads them to make judgments or implement plans that are not aligned with this most important viewpoint. The governing standard, ‘the best interest of the child” sometimes loses its acuity as a result, and thus the only person that typically suffers is the child.

There are key players in child custody cases, which include the attorneys for the parents, the law guardian (the attorney for the children), the court, the forensics (experts), the parents and, most importantly, the children. I want to explore the role of the law guardian first, since their role is the most pivotal. This is the person whose job it is to represent the child’s interests, convey the child’s wishes and to protect the child, all concomitantly. And although this may sound pretty basic, it is in theory but certainly not in practice. I have extensive experience in representing children in child custody and child visitation cases in Family Court and in contested divorces, and in many of my cases I am confronted with or surmise that parental alienation exists. In many cases, either the custodial parent badmouths the non-custodial parent, will not communicate with the non-custodial parent about significant events, occurrences, etc. in the child’s life, will intentionally disregard scheduled child visitation, blames the non-custodial for the dissolution of the family, makes the child unavailable to the non-custodial by engaging the child in other activities, gains empathy and/or sympathy from the child about his/her emotional state, minimizes the non-cutodial parent’s role while imposing a new partner on the child in his/her place, amongst many others.

The law guardian’s role is challenging because despite the circumstances that exist, the child’s wishes must be regarded and communicated to the court by the law guardian and many times this means that his/her client’s wishes not to have any contact with the non-custodial parent must not be dismissed. Conversely, protecting the child often means that, even where the law guardian must inform the court of his/her client’s wish not to have contact with the non-custodial parent, the law guardian’s going along with this may not be in that child’s best interest. And although our ethical rules dictate how we are to resolve such conflicts, in practice this can be much more difficult, especially when our own values or sociologic viewpoints come into play.

What is much more explicit in our obligations and duties as law guardian is that we are not limited to the issues in the child custody litigation, but have the obligation to address all of the child’s material needs. In essence, we are held with the responsibility to investigate further if we suspect that there is any form of child abuse/neglect present, and must report this to the proper authority. In the most extreme case, where parental alienation poses a risk or harm or potential harm to the child’s emotional, psychological or physical well-being, we have a duty to report to the court and Child Protective Services, which may result in a child abuse/neglect case being brought against the alienating parent. Consequently, again, we are placed in a position of conflict, since reporting any suspicion of child abuse/neglect can sometimes only exacerbate any emotional turmoil the client already experiences.

The skillful and experienced law guardian will effectively investigate, explore and engage all relevant sources in an effort to establish their client’s rationale for their desire not to visit with the non-custodial parent. The law guardian should establish a rapport with his/her client, gain the client’s trust and ensure the child that he can confide in him/her, interact with the child in a manner that is suitable for the child’s age, maturity and developmental stage while keeping in mind that there is a complete story. The law guardian should interview the parties, other relevant persons who may give valuable insight, as well as potential expert witnesses. The importance of visiting the home environment should not be overlooked, nor should reviewing pertinent records, i.e. school, medical, etc. to be better able to make a complete and comprehensive assessment of what is in the child’s best interest. Understanding the impact of parental alienation will only serve to equip the law guardian with the tools needed to prevent, terminate or minimize its deleterious effects on children. At first glance, one can very easily communicate to the court that his/her client has expressed a strong desire not to see the non-custodial parent, particularly when they of “unimpaired” age (12 years old and above). However, it is only when the law guardian truly accepts the importance of the child having a relationship with both parents, by any means, that they can effectively act in the child’s best interest and protect the child. There are various resources and methods available to law guardians to get the court, as well as the other key players in the child custody litigation, involved in addressing parental alienation. Under rare circumstances should the path taken by the law guardian be supporting the termination or suspension of child visitation with the non-custodial parent, this only serves to compound the problem and perpetuate hate, anger, guilt, fear, etc. well into adulthood.

This is David William Hedrick, a member of the silent majority from Washington. He decided that he was not going to be silent anymore. So, he let U.S. Congressman Brian Baird have it. He was one questioner out of 38, that was called at random from an audience of 3,000.

I’m having trouble with the video, till I get it worked out you can view it HERE.

He wasn’t expecting to be called on, so he quickly scratched what he wanted to say on a piece of paper and with a pen that he borrowed from someone else in the audience minutes before he spoke.

Thank you David.

Official Statement on Parental Alienation Syndrome From The American Psychological Association

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The American Psychological Association (APA) believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called “parental alienation syndrome”, and raised concern about the term’s use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.

The American Psychological Association (APA), in Washington, DC, is the largest scientific and professional organization representing psychology in the United States and is the world’s largest association of psychologists. APA’s membership includes more than 150,000 researchers, educators, clinicians, consultants and students.

I firmly believe that as soon as they come up with a pill for PAS they will immediately add it to the DSM and immediately begin drugging everyone involved.

Ken Maddox

Court orders 10 year old girl to see dying father within 28 days.

In an extraordinary Family Court judgment, the girl - who has said she wishes that her father would die - was instructed to see her father who is dying from liver cancer and has up to 12 months to live.

The girl, who is almost 11 years old, lives with her mother and has not seen her father since late 2003.

The mother has an intense hatred of the father and doubts that he is ill, despite doctors’ statements that the man has inoperable cancer.

An expert told the court that if the father dies without he and the child being able to say goodbye, the child will come to regret this later in life when she has emotional independence from her mother and “has had time to reflect on the appalling way in which she was drawn into the conflict between her parents”.

Justice Le Poer Trench said he had agonised over the decision but felt the child should be given an opportunity to see her father.

A court officer will supervise the once-a-month visits and determine their duration.

It was also suggested to the father that he might write a letter to the child and make her a DVD to view in the future should she want to learn more about her father in the future.

He said the mother was one of the most extraordinary people he had ever seen in his court, and that she was apparently devoid of compassion for the father.

He was concerned that the girl probably had some level of fear of her mother and said the child wanted to belong to her new family, including her mother’s new husband and child.

I invited a family court attorney from Mobile, Alabama to get listed on our website SplitnTwo.com. I saw his advertisements and he seemed like an honorable man. He looked at the website and sent me back a rather nasty message telling me that PAS doesn’t exist and its not reconized by any court in the nation. I wondered havng been involoved in the family court system for 30 years, surely he has witnessed PA several times.

Does anyone else still believe Parental Alienation Syndrome doesn’t exist?
Ken Maddox

Hello to all who have asked about the show. We will be back on the air on Febuary 20Th at our regualr time 9pm EST.

I will attempt to show why Parental Alienation is not just the parents of the alienated
child’s problem. I have some stats I want you to consider.

Children without the benefit of both parents are….

• 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide,
• 6.6 times to become teenage mothers (if they are girls),
• 24.3 times more likely to run away,
• 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders,
• 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions,
• 10.8 times more likely to commit rape,
• 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school,
• 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager.

AND - compared to children who are in the care of two biological, married parents -
children who are in the care of one parent are:
• 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention), and
• 73 times more likely to be killed.["Marriage: The Safest Place for Women and Children",
by Patrick F. Fagan and Kirk A. Johnson, Ph.D. Backgrounder #1535.]

What does this mean?
Recently a young evangelist who regularly visits a local prison and talks to inmates at Sunday Morning Service’s told me of his experiences there. He asked for a show of hands of the people there.
“Raise you hand if you had a relationship with both of your parents.”

Three inmates raised their hand. He told me there were approximately 60 people in the room. That means that 95% of the inmates in that room were not raised with the benefit of having both parents in their lives. Not a scientific survey but I would think this is about right for the entire prison system.

The United States has the highest documented incarceration rate, and total documented prison population in the world. As of year-end 2006, a record 7.2 million people were behind bars, on probation or on parole. Of the total, 2.2 million were incarcerated. More than 1 in 100 American adults were incarcerated at the start of 2008.
The total cost of the prison system in America is an estimated 60 billion per year. The prison system is totally supported by your tax dollars. The crimes committed by these prisoners are against you the people of this country. Immeasurable damage to the welfare of your family and this country is being done by the crime in this country.

Who are these criminals? Sadly from the stats and the personal account of this evangelist an overwhelming majority are the kids that do not have the benefit of being raised by both parents. When one parent is pushed out of a child’s life the chance that they will be affected by crime, either the victim or the assailant, is too high to be ignored any longer. When these kids grow up and end up in prison the usually leave behind emotionally scarred kids of their own with no direction and not much hope for a normal life or future. A generational curse is perpetuated in these cases.

We must band together and educate the people about this issue so, “We the People,” will bring these concerns to our politicians in the masses.
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