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1. On May 14th, 2009 at 6:29 pm SONYA ADDITON Says:

   I finally found a place where somebody somewhere understands what I am going through and that unfortunately I am not alone. I was married to an attorney who left me with no money, hid his assets, did drugs was caught using meth and marijuana, went through drug program, lost temp joint custody for nearly 10 months and then once he had regular visitation began to poison my childrens minds. My youngest daughter Sophia who just turned 12 has attempted suicide twice in his care, has an online highschool boyfriend, is allowed unmonitored to be online several hours a day using inappropriate,graphic language and behavior. She states that she is 15 years old. She has also used cutting.
   My eldest daughter has gained approximately 30 lbs, has no social life, isolates herself, they both are failing school, truant officers have been out to my exes home 3 times. Alex spends, per her therapist, 12-14 hours a day online. Alex suffers from anxiety and poor self esteem.
   Did I mention that just a mere 10 months before this my youngest achieved not only honor roll for academia but citizenship. These 2 girls are not the same children, I barely understand this nightmare.

   Please help. I have no more money to fight. At my last hearing my ex is claiming he fears for my children claiming that I am abusive and angry. His lies are exhausting and hurtful. My children refuse to see me, talk to me. Sophia was like an appendage connected to me all of her life until this happened. My ex has a huge trust fund and can afford to fight. My last attorney had to withdraw as I had no more funds to pay him. He did 5k in free work for me before withdrawing. He told me 2 weeks ago after talking to him about the latest developments that he wishes something would happen, that someone would see how manipulative and unhealthy me ex is, he also said that if my children when they were grown ever wanted to know the truth that he would tell them how hard I fought and how unfair this has been. He is afraid for my children as well if left in just my exes care.

   I have been told there must be an evidentiary hearing on 11/23/09 to decide things. My former attorney told me that I would need at minimum of 10k to retain him, 15k if I retained a new lawyer unfamiliar with the situation. I am currently umemployed, I have nothing to sell, no one to borrow from, and my credit is now ruined from the divorce. I do not know what I will be able to do. I have represented myself pro se off and on during my cases, which is part of the problem, but what more could I do. Until I lost my job in December, I worked 2 jobs to afford to live and then I did not qualify for legal aid, now I qualify for aid possibly but I just had to move out of state to get back on my feet.

   This should not have ever h appened to someone like me who loves and cared for my children. This is waht happens to parents who sexually, physically emotionally abuse their children. I need someone to advise me and tell m e that there is hope. Please….

   Sorry to say so much, but what else can I do?

   Thanks for your time and help,

   Sonya Additon