What do I tell my son?
I have not had custody of my son for 6 years. The court took him from me because of an allegation that I was going to leave the state with him. This was an allegation that my ex had called and said just as I was dropping him off to spend the next few days with him. He was stripped from my life without any facts or question. I feel as if he were kidnapped. I know where he is, I just can’t go to him. I have not been able to kiss him goodnight, give a bath, or simple things like argue with him about eating his dinner, or getting up for school.
I have been through every allegation that there could be without the court, CPS, or the authorities coming to a factualized conclusion for anything. Me and my son have been victimized by the state of Michigan and the Family court system.
I am currently a grad school student going for my masters in clinical psychotherapy and my thesis is on Parental Alinenation due to a court order. I am looking for participants for my study and I plan to give the findings to all of the organizations that are fighting for equal parental rights and for the children of the parents that they have lost.
If you are, or have been a victim of parental alienation due to the court system and are interested in doing an interview, please contact me at amklvyldy@yahoo.com. You would have to be in the area of OAkland, MAcomb, Genesee, Livingston, or Wayne Counties of Michigan, or willing to travel to them. It would last approximately 1-2 hours. Everything is confidential and I will not use your name if you are uncomfortable. Thank you for your support in this and I look forward to hearing from you and working to end Parental Alienation.
Hello, your story is sad and I am so sorry. I do understand as my children were stolen away from me like a thief in the night. They went to their dads house for Christmas and never came home again. I went five years without holding them, kissing them goodnight or even seeing their beautiful faces. I know your pain… I am the founder of Split n Two and would love to help you. I know many parents who are alienated in MI, as well as some professionals. You should be proud of yourself for continuing on with your education in hopes to make changes for our sweet innocnet children. As for what to tell your son, if you have the chance tell him what, I tell my children that “I love them to the moon and back always and forever” and that no matter what I will love always them. Tell him all about his mommy and ask him about who he is. Tell him how wonderful he is if you can. If your lucky enough to get even a moment with him make that the most wonderful moment you’ll ever have with him, and as if it will be your last. If your son has become one with his alienator and is mean to you, keep telling him how much you love him & show him how much you love him by not engaging in the madness with him, even if he lashes out or hangs up on you. For now this is what I can offer you and it has worked for one of my severely alienated children. Miracles really do happen! You never know when or how it will happen it could be anything, some how, some way something will trigger their memories, their hearts and their minds and our children will return to us, you’ll see.
Tawnya