Interventions for PA/PAS start with self-care: being in the present, authentic and having gratitude. Success requires goals of leading a full, balanced and accountable life, and staying positive in seeing PA/PAS as time-limited stage. Though victimized, never be a victim of self pity; using evolving strategic combinations of education, therapeutic interventions and court orders. Early intervention critical in mild/moderate cases:
1. Have clearly established, parenting plan with rules of conduct, being proactive and consistent in keeping schedules and avoiding transition of child stress if possible.
2. Use Court as arbiter of last resort; assume higher level of mutual parental moral responsibility and recognition that it's about the children.
3. By helping children to find their voice in talking about problems, as all in family are accountable. Stand up to children's bad behavior with emotional control, compassion, and gentle accountability, firm setting of boundaries and avoiding emotional blackmail.
4. Talk with children in age appropriate ways about your feelings of how changes have happened in everybody's life in order to achieve acceptance of those changes.
5. Find out about child's interest, ideas and imagination. Build child's self-esteem, while teaching/learning (and having fun) is a mutual process.
6. Be knowledgeable about child's life, and staying involved in school and athletic/ hobbies/ cultural/artistic interests. Volunteer in church, school, etc. (continue)
